In Case You’re Wondering

“Hope” is the thing with feathers. -Emily Dickinson

The ostrich (also know as the Common Ostrich) is a flightless bird. Beautiful creatures, graceful and comical at the same time. After a few years and a coupla infertility treatments, I was starting to wonder if this bird would every get her wings.

This blog was born out of a desire to bury my head in the sand. I could see infertility looming in the distance, but I was fairly certain that something– anything– would intercede and I would be fine. To a certain degree, it was a defense mechanism. Little did I know ostriches do not, in fact, bury their heads to hide. They lie low, they blend in, but they aren’t anywhere near as foolish as we think.

Along the way, I realized that this blog is about more than infertility. It is about disbelief. It is about anger. It is a multi-year study in grief and all its forms.

It is also an ode to hope. To mustering the strength to keep breathing. To letting go of what I wanted and accepting this one life I have.

It turns out that though ostriches are terrible at flying, they are exceptional runners. They find new ways of getting by, and so have I.

I am the ostrich. Coocoocachoo, and all that.



  1. Caroline · October 22, 2014

    Excited for your upcoming IVF!! Waiting with you!!!!

  2. jen.g · November 11, 2014

    Just found your blog. Thinking positive thoughts for you!!

    • thecommonostrich · November 11, 2014

      Welcome to my world of IF jargon and obscenities!

      • jen.g · November 11, 2014

        I love it!

  3. DiaryofaHopefulWoman · December 17, 2014

    I can’t wait for what happens next, baby dust to you both!

  4. Katie · January 6, 2015

    Hi, I nominated you for an award because I really enjoy reading your blog and wanted my Readers to know about it! If you’re interested and/or would like to accept please see my link with the information. Cheers, Katie

    • thecommonostrich · January 7, 2015

      Thank you so much! I am so touched.

      Because of all the feelings (all the feelings) that I’ve been sorting through in the past few weeks, I’ve taken a bit of a break from blogging. I’m getting ready to get back on this horse. And I’ll be officially accepting this when I do!

      • Katie · January 7, 2015

        Totally understandable. Do it if/when you can – it’s not the priority at the moment. I guess I just wanted you to know I like your blog 🙂

  5. Tracy · March 13, 2015

    I just wanted to tell you that you’re awesome. I wish the best for you & Mr. ostrich. Your written has made me smile, cry, laugh, etc. you’ve given me hope. Good luck Mrs. ostrich.

    • thecommonostrich · March 16, 2015

      It is so easy to feel like you’re going through this stuff alone, but writing about it (and having other people read it) has meant the world to me. It is nice to know that other people get something out of this too!

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